"To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.”
WHAT IS INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY?
Deciding to reach out and take the first step to address issues that are challenging you speaks to your strength and willingness to be vulnerable.
Individual psychotherapy is the one-on-one work between a therapist and a client and is sometimes used in conjunction with couples' therapy to help clients deal with personal issues that are affecting your interpersonal relationships. These issues are best dealt with privately (not in couples' therapy session) so that these issues don't take the focus away from the couples work or occur during couples work causing the other partner to feel they are simply observers of the other partners individual therapy whilst in a couples session.
There are many different styles of therapy, but all of them center around helping the client reach his or her goals. This is a unique relationship, in that it is strictly confidential and provides you an opportunity to be completely honest with yourself and another person. It is almost inevitable for a new client to fear judgment or rejection, particularly when you are being so open, but it’s not the role of the therapist to criticize or lecture you. Therapists are there to support you and help you reach your goals. Individual therapy has been shown to improve mood and self-esteem. In fact, studies show that talk therapy, the process of developing a relationship with a licensed mental health professional to work through emotions, thoughts, disappointments, and experiences can be even more effective than medication in treating depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
Individual therapy moves from an initial intake session that generally is focused on the clients history, reasons for coming to therapy and discussion of treatment goals. During the first few sessions, clients (and therapist) can determine if the therapist-client relationship is the best fit and that the therapist is qualified to address the clients particular issues and goals. If not, the therapist will assist the client in transitioning to another therapist.
It is crucial that you feel comfort and a connection with your individual therapist. In fact, a good alliance with your therapist is the greatest determining factor in whether therapy will be helpful. If you have questions or concerns during your appointments, you are strongly encouraged to share them openly. If you find that you don’t feel comfortable with a particular therapist after sharing your concerns, you should feel empowered to stop your sessions and seek someone who may be a better fit. At MBCA Reno, Nevada, we know that one size does not fit all and encourage clients to change their therapist if they feel it is not a good fit. We have several other therapists in our group that we can refer you to.
If you are interested in learning more, call 775-507-7222 or click here to book an appointment online. Helping you find your balance is our primary focus and we are happy to get you started now.
WHAT IS COUPLES COUNSELING?
On average, couples seek therapy for their relationship two to five years after they begin to experience trouble. Couples’ therapy fails upwards of 70% of the time because couples finally seek out help when so much damage has occurred that nothing can hold them together. They often fail to follow through with therapy, thinking that things should improve between them after just a couple of sessions. However, if it took years to develop these difficulties, it is natural to expect that it will take some time to improve these interactions.
If you are seeking support and guidance for your relationship issues, be aware that simply selecting any couples’ therapist can be risky. All relationships have different levels of difficulty and are at very different levels of risk for ending versus improving. A skilled couples’ therapist that utilizes a research based methodology and framework is a major component to achieving your goals.
When a couple enters therapy, the skilled therapist assesses the couple to determine if both members are committed (“leaning in” vs “leaning out”) to the relationship and trust each other. If this is the case, the couple can move forward with couples’ therapy to help them develop better communication and conflict management skills.
If the couple has experienced chronic negative interactions over the years: an affair, physical/emotional violence, or if one or both partners are leaning out of the relationship, then it must be determined whether the couple should do individual sessions first to help each partner discern whether they want to work on the relationship or not. Basically, there are three options a couple has for moving forward: (1) Keep doing what you are doing, hoping for change without knowing how to implement it, and most likely end up in the same challenging and frustrating place, (2) Decide to separate or divorce, or (3) Make a commitment to the relationship and engage in couples counseling.
To assist in choosing an option, a couple can engage in Discernment Counseling, which is different than couples’ counseling. Discernment Counseling brings more clarity, confidence, and understanding of each partner’s contribution to the problems in the relationship. This type of counseling is done individually and is generally short-term in nature. The goal is to help the leaning out partner decide to either continue as they are, clarify the decision to separate or divorce, or make a decision to reconcile and move forward with couples’ counseling, taking the option of divorce off of the table. The research on Discernment Counseling indicates that 50% of the discernment couples move forward with couples therapy, 40% choose divorce, and 10% do nothing and stay the course. If a couple passes through Discernment Counseling and chooses to move into couples’ counseling, then couples’ counseling will focus on becoming closer emotionally, solving problems together more effectively, and achieving a more satisfying relationship.
Call us at 775-507-7222 to schedule an couple's counseling appointment today.
WHAT IS FAMILY COUNSELING?
“Why family therapy…because it deals with family pain.” Virginia Satir
All of us come from a family. We learn both functional and dysfunctional behaviors and attitudes from our observations as well as our interactions with other family members over a very long period of time. Sometimes, these behaviors are not conducive to ongoing healthy relationships inside or outside of our families.
Our family affects who we are and who we become, both for the better or worse. We learn our vocabulary, our habits, our customs and rituals, and how to view and observe the world around us.
Family members aren’t just made family by blood, marriage or adoption, they can also be very close friends whom we have developed a family relationship with and have a close connection to.
When there are significant disruptions among or within a family, family therapy can help families to regain or develop a sense of wholeness and happiness.
Family therapy addresses these relationships or issues within the context of the “system” of the family. To solve a problem in a system, you need to consider all parts of the system. If one family member has an addiction, health issue, work related stresses, etc., it doesn’t just affect that person, it affects all members of the family system.
The benefits of family therapy include:
Reduced conflict and better communication skills
Improved problem solving among family members
A better understanding of healthy boundaries
A safe environment in which to discuss difficult issues
Deepening trust between family members
Developing a supportive family environment
Helping the family deal with a crisis
If you are experiencing family difficulties and would like to discuss the option of family therapy with one our qualified family therapists, call MBCA at 775-507-7222 and we will explore this treatment option with you.